Couples & Relationship Counselling
Supporting connection, growth, and understanding
I’m an experienced couples and relationship counsellor, having trained with Relate in 2008. Over the years, I’ve helped many couples navigate the complexities of love, communication, and change — whether they’re in crisis or simply seeking deeper connection.
Counselling Isn’t Just for Problems
A common misconception is that couples therapy is only for relationships in trouble. While many couples do seek support during difficult times, counselling can also strengthen a healthy relationship — helping partners build skills in communication, conflict resolution, and intimacy before challenges arise.
Love Evolves — So Do We
In the early stages of love, we see each other through rose-tinted glasses. Everything feels effortless. But over time, the quirks we once adored can become sources of tension. People grow and change — and for a relationship to thrive, it must evolve too.
I often hear one partner say, “I haven’t changed. I’m still the person you fell in love with.” But when two people grow in different ways or at different times, imbalance can creep in. Therapy offers a space to explore these shifts and reconnect with each other’s evolving needs.
“Spontaneity is a fabulous idea, but in an ongoing relationship whatever is going to “just happen” already has. Now they have to make it happen.”
― Esther Perel
Conflict: Facing It Together
Conflict often feels scary — we associate it with fighting, hurt, or loss. Many of us avoid it altogether, fearing it will damage the relationship. But avoidance can lead to frustration, resentment, and a sense that “nothing ever changes.”
In therapy, couples learn to approach conflict differently — not as a battle to win, but as a way to express needs safely. Healthy conflict fosters understanding and creates space for both partners to feel heard. Together, we work toward a “win-win” dynamic that strengthens your bond.
Communication: The Heart of Connection
Strong relationships are built on open, respectful communication. Yet many couples find themselves talking at each other rather than with each other.
In sessions, we explore how you communicate — and what might be left unsaid. Topics like finances and parenting often reveal deep values and beliefs. Therapy helps you listen more deeply, speak more clearly, and understand each other’s perspectives with compassion.
Affairs & Betrayals
Affairs and betrayals are among the most painful wounds couples bring to therapy. These moments can shake the foundation of trust and connection.
Counselling offers a space to process grief, explore the impact of betrayal, and understand the deeper issues that may have contributed to the rupture. Healing is possible — and therapy can guide you through it, together.
